One of the biggest steps in a relationship is deciding on whether to live together. At this point you have recognized that you are committed to each other and truly want to love one another but may be thinking what in the world did I just get myself into? Gone are the days where you will have your own room and apartment to yourself. No more leaving around laundry or spending uber amount of time in the bathroom to get ready just because you can. But I have some suggestions on how to stay sane while having a successful cohabitation experience with your significant other. Hopefully in time your apartment life will be blissful.
Tip #1: Realize That Living Together Won’t Always Be Easy
The golden rule that most couples forget is that living together isn’t a piece of cake. It comes with getting to know each other’s habits and accepting each other for who they are even if they make a mess at times. But be glad you have your significant other to love and grow with even if you want to yell at them for leaving dirty dishes out or forgetting to take out the trash.
Tip #2: Declare Your Own Physical Space
Most couples decide to live together since they see no point in spending the cost for two separate rents or because they have reached that point in their relationship where living together is next on their list. The idea of communicating which area in the apartment is yours will make a huge difference in staying sane. Most people in relationships don’t want to spend every waking hour of the day right next to their partner simply because we are humans and we need our own space sometimes. I am talking about simply declaring dibs on a certain comfy chair or an office space or best of all closet space. The icing on the cake aka closet space is key for making sure you have a clear division of space for your belongings.
Tip #3: Communication is Key
You’ve heard it before communication is a driving force into a successful relationship. Once again it’s hard to cohabitate with someone else if you can’t communicate what’s on your mind. When living together it’s easy to draw up arguments and fights but where are you to go when the bickering starts up? You know live with your partner, which means you’re forced to work it out and make up. It’s so easy and proven that when you give little compliments like ‘You look good today’ or ‘Is there anything I can help you with today’ will trigger positive communication which results in a happy relationship.
Tip #4: Delegate Apartment Responsibilities
No one likes to do all the chores when living with someone else. No one. I suggest to you that you don’t become that person that is “obligated” to clean up 24/7. It’s about time that you speak up in your relationship and realize there are two people living together in your fabulous apartment. Learning to compromise with chore duties (just like living with a roommate) will help both of you learn to communicate about compromises for other situations that might occur in your relationship.
Tip #5: Don’t Forget About Date Nights
We all know that the honeymoon phase in relationships doesn’t last forever and couples tend to distance themselves from each other wanting time apart. So how do you stay sane in your relationship and make it last? It’s ok to not always be around each other. You almost want your person to miss you as crazy as that sounds. Try to have a date night once a week. Give yourself something to look forward to throughout the week. Even if it’s watching a movie you both enjoy on Netflix or going out to eat. Having those moments to share ‘Hey guess what happened today?’ will help your relationship stay strong and sane.
I hope you stay sane in your relationship and remember some of the tips that will improve your overall apartment life experience with the person you love.